Joy, Love

Stop Lying to Yourself

Honesty. It’s easy to recognize the value of honesty. Honesty earns you the title “trustworthy” from others. Honesty provides a crucial foundation for solid and healthy relationships. Honesty validates your integrity. Honesty always leads you down the right path. I am willing to bet that you would say that you value honesty. I bet that you would also consider yourself an honest person.

Stop lying to yourself.

Literally. I mean it.

I consider myself an honest person. I feel guilty telling even a little white lie. I am as honest as I possibly can be with my feelings. I hold honesty at the top of the list in terms of my core values. But I was hit today with a big fat truth that wasn’t easy to stomach. As honest as I aim to be, I lie to myself. A lot.

My lies often come in the form of sentiments like “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t fit in.” When I’m faced with something I want to succeed at, I sometimes lie to myself and tell myself that I will fail – before I even get started. I know I can’t be the only one out there that tells these stupid lies.

If we can see the value in honesty toward others, we also need to recognize the value in speaking truth to ourselves. Tell yourelf you are loveable, capable, smart, strong, worthy….and quit lying to yourself.

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Leading with Love: “the why”

I’ve been sitting here wondering what to write about in the inaugural “Leading with Love” blog post, and I have decided what better thing to start with than why I am doing this. Bear with me.

There’s always been an element of struggle in my life. On and off I have struggled with things like making connections, my self confidence, depression and anxiety, negative self-talk, finding my purpose in life, and the like. All of these struggles, when I allow them to lead, really drag me down and send me into a negative tailspin. The only remedy, I’ve learned, is to “lead with love.”

Furthermore, I have learned that I am not the only person in life that struggles from time to time. And I started thinking that if I “lead with love” more frequently and intentionally in my interactions with others, maybe I can help ease the burden of their struggles, and infuse joy into their lives.

That is “the why” behind “Leading with Love.” To help. To inspire. To encourage. To pursue purpose. To cultivate joy.